The old adage, ‘Birds of feather flock together’ comes to mind. Almost everything in our life is given, the family, our kin, neighbours, etc. But, we have the power to choose our friends. The people we surround ourselves with either raise or lower our standards. They either help us to become the best version of ourselves or encourage us to become lesser versions of ourselves. We become like our friends. No man becomes great on his own. No woman becomes great on her own. The people around them help to make them great. Here’s Nikita telling us how to choose our friends, in the weekly column, exclusively for Different Truths.
It often started with midnight conversations about sale online and ended with heavy conversations on world issues. On those days, when happiness meant having tea sitting by side of your favorite people on Earth. Or a night before the final exam, being with there for each other through the tough times – life comes down to 7-word combination called – friends.
Friends are the family we chose for ourselves. They reflect who we are. Finding true love is easier than finding true friends. Do not assume that people you’ve known for many years would be there for you when called. Sometimes, friends are people who are deeply envious and vengeful and would do anything to see you fall. Some of them pretend that they love you.
The people we surround ourselves with either raise or lower our standards. They either help us to become the best version of ourselves or encourage us to become lesser versions of ourselves. We become like our friends. No man becomes great on his own. No woman becomes great on her own. The people around them help to make them great.
We all need people in our lives who raise our standards, remind us of our essential purpose, and challenge us to become the best version of ourselves.
Stay away from those who do not bring anything good into your life. Cut them off your branches before they start making you weak at your own roots. Accompany people who are always happy and smiling, those that talk about how blessed they are simply to be alive. Be with people who show you joy.
Personalities, Traits and Habits rub off
It is important to make friendships deeper than gossiping and drinking and smoking and going out. Make friends who you can get breakfast with, make friends who you can cry with, make friends who support your life goals and believe in you.
Aimee Groth says, “When it comes to relationships, we are greatly influenced — whether we like it or not — by those closest to us. It affects our way of thinking, our self-esteem, and our decisions. Of course, everyone is their own person, but research has shown that we’re more affected by our environment than we think.”
When we are surrounded by constant negativity, it will rub off on us, no matter how positive we try to be. Complainers and gossips insinuate their toxic thoughts into our consciousness and affect our thoughts and behaviour.
We are who we Hang-out with
As Jim Rohn said, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”Look around and see if you’d like to be the average of the five people closest to you.
Want to be successful? Surround yourself with successful people.
Want to be happy? Surround yourself with happy people.
Want to be healthy? Surround yourself with healthy people.
Want to become more confident? Surround yourself with confident people.
In essence, we become more like the people we hang out with.
“Energy is contagious, positive and negative alike. You should forever be mindful of ‘what’ and ‘who’ you are allowing into your place.” If we surround ourselves with people, who are below us, they would only drag us down. People either fill you or drain you, choose wisely.
Surround yourself with people who talk more about the politics, religion, society, culture, humanity, arts, universe, ideas, beliefs, and literature and less about other people. Find someone who introduces you to new music, art, culture, ideas, books, etc. Someone who will expand your mind and help you grow.
As you grow professionally, emotionally, financially and spiritually, your hurdles become stronger. As you start climbing higher, the winds get stronger. As you grow, you also break down. You cut yourself off from people, who were a barrier to your growth.
You are judged. You are criticised. You are distrusted. You are framed. It’s a part of the growth. Let go of those who are constantly criticising the work you do and judging you for who you are.
You are the CEO of your life. Evaluate the people in your life, than promote, demote or terminate them.
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Nikita Goel is a Texas-based writer. She is actively associated with Aagaman Literary and Cultural Society’s English Publications. She has worked as the managing editor for Purple Hues. She has co-authored three books. Her poems have been published in five anthologies. She has been featured online on Readomania, Aagaman -The Arrival, Writers e-zine, Writing Geeks, Literary and Creativity Magazine. Her blog, Enchantress, has been adjudged India’s best blog for three consecutive years.