Not all families are supportive families. Some families are held together through a web of lies, manipulation, abusive and toxic behaviours, opines Nikita. An exclusive for Different Truths.
Most of us have grown with loving and supportive families, but some families are held together through a web of lies, manipulation, abusive and toxic behaviours.
How do you know you have a toxic family member, relative or cousin? You may feel anxious when you have to talk to them. Once you have talked to them, you will feel drained and negative thoughts will overpower you.
While all families have disagreements, toxic families thrive on drama and chaos. They might use harmful techniques such as gossiping, harsh judgments and constant criticism to bring you down. Your business will become your aunt’s business. They will have a say in everything.
Danielle Koepke said, “Not all toxic people are cruel and caring. Some of them love us dearly. Many of them have good intentions. Most are toxic to us because they are not inherently awful people, but they are not the right people for us. And as hard as it is, we have to let them go.”
Danielle Koepke said, “Not all toxic people are cruel and caring. Some of them love us dearly. Many of them have good intentions. Most are toxic to us because they are not inherently awful people, but they are not the right people for us. And as hard as it is, we have to let them go.”
Here are the different types of toxic people;
1. The Self-Haters
They are the most fatal of all toxic people. They despise themselves so much that they cannot bear to see anyone else happy around them. Run for your life if you have this person.
2. The Spiritual Vampires
The ones who constantly talk about something sad, negative or pessimistic. They are the ones who suck out your positivity and leave you emotionally depleted.
3. The Drama Magnets
They thrive in a mess. If there is not a problem, they create it. They are not interested in your opinions. They make you say what they want to hear.
They thrive in a mess. If there is not a problem, they create it. They are not interested in your opinions. They make you say what they want to hear.
4. Obsessive Liars
Whether it is frivolous information or a prodigious thing, they do not shy away from lying on your face.
5. Aggressively Competitive
They receive every conversation and person as a challenge that must be won over. They would crush you and grin back.
6. The Narcissist
The entire conversation is about their life. They call you to mention that you are lucky to have them. They broadcast their own success. You feel emotionally drained once they have disconnected the phone.
7. Secretly Jealous
They do not cheer for you when you win. They closely monitor your every move and never give a compliment. They are constantly competing with you whether it is a cake you baked, a new hobby you took up or how perfect your relationships are.
They do not cheer for you when you win. They closely monitor your every move and never give a compliment. They are constantly competing with you whether it is a cake you baked, a new hobby you took up or how perfect your relationships are. Their lives rotate around you. Their sole ambition in life is to become better than you.
8. FOMO Guys
They crave to be a part of every conversation imaginable. They thrive on the information about people. They are skilled manipulators, and they will never miss a chance to share your secrets against you. They exclude you from extensive conversations with mutual friends intentionally.
9. Attention Seekers
They are desperately seeking attention. They are teenagers inside their heads. They demand constant drama. They make you feel heated and overworked.
10. Damsel in Disguise
The ones who are consistently a victim. They love playing the “martyr” to gain sympathy. They never take responsibility for their actions. They are always pointing fingers at somebody else.
The ones who are consistently a victim. They love playing the “martyr” to gain sympathy. They never takes responsibility for their actions. They are always pointing fingers at somebody else. They make you feel like it is your personal responsibility to rescue, save or uplift them.
If you are dealing with this person, there are two ways to throw them out of your life.
1. Let them go: Stop replying to their texts, stop calling them back and distance yourself completely. Eventually, the relationship will fade out, and they will start feeding on another person.
2. Tell them they are toxic: If you would like to resolve things, talk to them. If you think, they are unwilling to change their behavior, tell them about it and walk away for good.
It is difficult to walk away from a childhood friend, a relative, your spouse, parents or colleagues when they become the toxic person. I have learned it the hard way they will suck out the life from you and never feel guilty about it. The only brave things to do are to throw them out of your life.
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