Explore the complexities of love, with Sakshi, emphasising the importance of embracing flaws and patience in nurturing connections, in the Special Feature, exclusively for Different Truths.
Perfection is overrated. The very idea of being ‘perfect’ is a myth; likewise, falling in love with the perfect person is an absurd idea.
Nothing is perfect in this imperfect world. We all have flaws, scars, cuts, and an untold story, somewhere hidden inside the dark, deep corners of our brittle, broken hearts.
When you find a person, you unveil yourself, bare your soul, shed your fear, flaws, anxiety, and all the emotions you are bottling up, and let out that untold story lying somewhere in the subconscious mind—when you are patiently listened to, understood, and felt. When you find yourself healed in the process of sharing your heart, you tend to forget about your so-called checklist, and you realise that perfection is a myth.
When you can’t stop awing, seeing a not-so-perfect person, polishing his/her qualities, putting all your efforts into changing the habits, just to be your perfect match, you realise none, but the very person is perfect for you.
So, stop chasing perfection. Chase a good heart, and perfection will follow.
Love is not a decision; it’s a fall. We fall into the abyss every day without letting each other fall.
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Love: A continuous process
Love is not an activity that you plan to do for a day. It’s rather a process—a continuous process. It’s never like this when you get up in the morning and say, “I am in love today.” It’s a gradual process. It takes time for love to be diffused everywhere and to find its space in all the pores of your body and soul.
The process doesn’t end here. You have to put effort into it effortlessly every day to breathe life into it, just as you need to water a plant every day to keep it alive. Deep watering allows the water to seep beneath the roots. That’s how you grow in love throughout. Every other day, you must make it and give it shape.
If I say effort, it’s not some Herculean task I talk about; it should be as effortless as it can be. In a nutshell, you don’t have to weigh yourself down, as it’s not a burden you need to bear, but you should think it’s rather like raw clay, and you must put effort into giving it shape.
Once it’s given shape, you must put in effort to protect it from temperature, rain, and other perils so that it doesn’t break. It’s not burdensome, but you do it because it’s your very own and you have made it with your own hands.
Love is most important, but it does not suffice. Other important pillars help in building a strong relationship so that it does not collapse under its weight. Trust, time, understanding, friendship, respect, honesty, and communication—they all are like the cake binders and glue that hold everything together.
So, if you love someone, do put in your little valuable effort every day to build and rebuild it; water it every day with honesty, respect, trust, and healthy communication, and believe me, the foundation will be too strong to fall apart.
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Time, You, and I
And I asked him if he didn’t love me enough to get me a gift, a rose, or some chocolates. How can he forget these love days so mercilessly? Later, his words left me with no words. I was surprised at the same time and started counting my lucky starts when he said, “Isn’t my time enough?” And I pondered: Isn’t it romantic that he left the most important work to give me his most precious time, prioritising me over anything and everything? And his words reminded me of all those days when he enacted his words, “I will be there.
The best thing you can give to your loved ones is your time, as it slips every second, even if we try hard to hold it. We should sip each moment before it becomes a memory. Time is the most precious and expensive gift you can give to anyone. It has no substitute.
Picture design by Anumita Roy
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