Author: Payal Talreja

The Perpetrator Beta vs. the Victim Beti: Tales from a Chauvinistic Society

Reading Time: 5 minutesVarnika Kundu, daughter of an IAS officer, was terrorised and almost kidnapped, in Chandigarh, by Vikas Barala, son of BJP Haryana chief. Our New Delhi-based columnist, Payal says that nobody has a right to shame a woman because she drinks, or drives out late at night, is independent, or does not have a protector. As […]

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Women and the Art of Saying No

Reading Time: 4 minutesWomen do not know how to say, ‘No’. They get into trouble for hesitating and not speaking their minds, clearly.  Here’s a bold and gutsy reaction to this problem by Payal, in the weekly column, exclusively in Different Truths. I’ve always maintained that anything men can do, women can do too, whether it be boxing […]

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Sex and the Indian Woman: More than Lipstick under our Burqas

Reading Time: 5 minutesGender roles are defined and given in a patriarchal society. The ‘good’ versus the ‘bad’ girl/woman mindset in the backdrop of the film Lipstick under my Burqa and marital rape. Payal takes a hard look and rips apart these assigned roles, in the weekly column, exclusively in Different Truths.  This is a coming of age […]

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Boys will (Not) be Boys: Towards a more Human Society

Reading Time: 5 minutesWe talk all the time about what we would teach our daughters, but we equally need to engage in reorienting that which is taught to our sons, not just for the future of the world, but so that they themselves can grow to their full potential as human beings. Payal takes a hard look at […]

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Let Us Talk About Rape

Reading Time: 5 minutesRape is not just sex. It’s about control and power. Payal takes a hard look rape, its survivors and suggests viable solutions to this problem, in the weekly column, exclusively for Different Truths. Nobody does. To those of us who are lucky enough, it is something that we discuss in hushed voices, with pity or […]

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A Country for Women: Feminist Beliefs make it Happen

Reading Time: 5 minutesPayal takes a look at the Top Ten countries of the world with skewed sex ratio at birth, due to the patriarchal system. She talks of the winds of change blowing in India, where girls are performing the funeral rites of their parents. She also talks of the Indian government’s initiative to educate and save […]

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A Happy Day for Fathers: Someday…

Reading Time: 4 minutesIt is neither easy for men, nor women to transition their changing roles. Women are reluctant to give up the mystique of motherhood. And men have to prepare themselves not only for social ridicule but also self-doubt as diaper-changing dads. Payal tells us how the age-old types are crumbling, in the weekly column, exclusively in […]

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Trolls and Their Dirty Underwear

Reading Time: 4 minutesPayal shows us the ugly face of trolls, red in tooth and claw. She explains the reasons for trolling and also suggests how to deal with these, in the weekly column, exclusively in Different Truths.  It happens in real life, so why shouldn’t it happen online? Women being harassed, bullied, abused and attacked is not […]

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Two Sides of a Woman: Rebellion and Submission

Reading Time: 4 minutesBy subverting our politically inclined feminism, boys exploited us even further by a pretend admiration for the fact that we were breaking taboos that made us, in fact, more available to them. Of course, when you are young, stupid, and thoroughly confused by your rampant sexuality, which suddenly makes you ‘popular’, you can’t see this. […]

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